Is it the life which drags us along, or we choose to tread the path for ourselves? Irrespective of anything, one thing is for sure that along with certain limitations, we have been blessed by existence, with a free will. Though we must abide by certain rules, but we are free to choose our actions and create our own destiny. Be it any challenge or circumstance, we always have our free will with us, the power to choose, what is or not best for us.
Life starts, the moment we take the onus of our thoughts and actions. If you want to lead a successful life, then we cannot rely on life to make choices for us, but we must make choices for ourselves.